Habits, we’ve all got them. Habits are described in the dictionary as an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary. Good or bad, you can see how it could be difficult to change your ways if you are acting involuntarily or unintentionally.
Have you ever made a conscious decision to stop eating late at night, only to suddenly find yourself sitting on the couch, watching TV and there in your hand is a bowl of ice cream? Or maybe you’re walking in the door to your house after a long day at work, take off your coat, go directly to the pantry and grab a handful of chips. How about during the day when you’re talking to a co-worker who has a bowl of candy on her desk and you ‘unintentionally” eat 4 of them before your conversation is over.
All of these are habits, we do them with out thinking and quite honestly we do them even when we are “thinking”.
Begin with Awareness of your habits
So how do we change these behaviors? We must consciously make the decision to eat better, exercise more, start meditating, use the stairs, ban all sweets, and yet… something is stopping us. Our brains are amazing. It lets us know what we want to do before we are even aware of making a conscious decision. You see, when you’ve been performing a certain behavior or a task for a long period of time, you’ve created a neurological pathway that leads you down that path quite easily.
Think of it like a cleared path through the woods. It’s much easier to walk down the cleared path than it is to trudge through the woods trying to create a new path. That’s going to take too much work and too much time. So, our brains choose the path of least resistance.
Now, I am not saying we don’t have any control, because we absolutely do. What I am saying is that it’s going to take practice and awareness is the first step.
Making yourself aware of when, under what circumstances and what feelings are attached to the behavior will help you to understand why you’re doing it and in turn could help you to stop. Of course awareness is just he beginning. Next you need to create a new path!
Replace the old habit with a new habit
Before you try to get rid of the old habit, replace it with a new one. Trying to just stop what you’re doing leaves you with a big void needing to be filled. For example, if you’re trying to stop late night snacking, have a cup of tea instead; too big of a jump? If you’re used to having a bowl of ice cream, switch to a small bowl of popcorn (plain) or maybe chew some gum. Personally I like to do something with my hands, like knitting.
It’s important to know what you will and won’t be able to live with. What ever you decide to do instead of the “old habit”, you’ll need to do this for a while in order to clear the path and create a newer, healthier habit.
So be patient and stick with it for a while. Once the new behavior has become a habit, it will be just as hard to break the good habit, as it was the bad habit.
Keep in mind that we all slip up now and then. This is called a lapse. What you don’t want to happen is have that lapse turn in to a relapse. If you mess up, accept it, let go of beating yourself up, (total waste of energy) and move on. The quicker you can make this turn around, the quicker you’ll be back on the right path clearing the way for the next time.
Reward yourself for the new habit
Another tip for helping you instill that new habit into your lifestyle, is with rewards. Just make sure your rewards are aligned with what you are trying to accomplish. For instance, if you are trying to lose weight, don’t reward yourself with food. Instead try rewarding yourself with something that will bring you closer to living your new healthier lifestyle
Here are a few ideas for rewards:
Note that all of these rewards fit into the new healthier lifestyle you’re trying to create.
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Lisa Swanson is an ACE certified Health Coach, Personal Trainer and Orthopedic Exercise Specialist as well as a certified PN level 1 nutritionist. With over 30 years experience helping women turn their lives around she can easily adapt programs to meet your specific needs.
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