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Making The Decision to Lose Weight, Again

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Making The Decision To Lose Weight, Again

How many times have you tried to lose weight? I don’t know the exact percentage, I’ve read anywhere from 65% up to 97% of the men and women who lost weight gain it all back. And that the average person, by the age of 45 has tried 61 diets! This according to an article in the Huffington Post  A new program becomes popular and everyone flocks to the stores, or Internet, to grab a copy of the book, DVD, or new fangled exercise equipment because THIS time, it’s going to work. Because THIS is what I really need to lose weight.

Unfortunately, most will fail. Even more unfortunate it will be the consumer who blames him or herself for the failure. We tell ourselves over and over again, it would have worked but… I didn’t try hard enough, I just don’t have the will power, I’m weak. Very rarely do we blame the diet or the exercise program.

First I want to be very clear that I am not saying every diet and exercise program out there doesn’t work. I’d go so far as to say, most of them do; for a limited time. The problem is that they either restrict too many foods, or calories, or have you doing crazy high intensity workouts that you can’t keep up with. Well it’s actually a bit more complicated than that. Suffice it to say, most of these programs have 2 main problems

  1. They don’t take into account where you, personally, are starting from

  2. They don’t take a lifestyle approach to getting you to your weight loss goal

So you see, you are set up right from the beginning to fail. Do exactly what the diet tells you do to, or you will gain weight. Stop the diet and you will gain weight. And not only that, you’ll most likely be at a higher percent body fat than when you started.

Ugh! How depressing. Let’s get on to the good stuff! There is a way to lose weight and keep it off. But before you even go there. What can you do to summon up the energy to try it again? You’ve been there before, it didn’t work! Sure, you lost some weight, but now it’s back; and even more! Why should I bother trying again when I know my body is just not capable of losing weight?

Yes. It. Is. I wish I could tell you some magical secret to losing 20 lbs. in 20 days, or to eat a special food and you’ll never have to worry about weight gain, again.   Or to tell you it’s simply a matter of calories in and calories out. Well it isn’t, it’s more complicated than that. So what the heck is the good news? Today, you don’t need to worry about that. Today let’s just get you in the right mindset to try this again, because I can guarantee you this is where it all starts.

Taking time for these first steps are crucial in your ability to lose weight and keep it off

It all begins with your mindset.

First you need to accept the fact that there is no magic bullet answer to weight loss. Diets do not work, changing your lifestyle does. It’s not glamorous or exciting, but it’s the truth. One thing I can guarantee you, as a personal trainer and nutritionist, I will always tell you the truth.

Next you need to think about WHY losing weight is important to you. I’m not talking about wanting to look good in a bikini, but a deeper more compelling reason. Some I have heard in the past: I want to have enough energy to keep up with my kids/grandkids. I want to get off all these medications. I’m tired of having (you fill in the blank) pain. For me, I want to be healthy and able to care for myself well into my 90’s, and truth be told, I do want to look good in a bikini! 😉

Having a connection to this deeper meaning will help you to take that first step again. I know starting over is very difficult, I’d go so far to say it’s scary! Yes, scary! Who reading this article is afraid of failing again?   I bet you’re not alone!. But you can set yourself up for success by taking the time to put aside dreams for a magic bullet, connecting to your “why” and know that THIS time, it’s about lifestyle not diet. Start your program, with the idea that you are developing new lifestyle habits, not going through a temporary fix.

If you need some assistance putting together a personalized nutrition and workout program give me a call 888-222-1273 or send me an email to schedule a complimentary, no obligation Get Fit Stay Fit Breakthrough coaching session. I’m sure I have a program that will fit your needs.

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29 Responses to "Making The Decision to Lose Weight, Again"
  1. I find that no matter the goal, the WHY is the most important thing to keep you motivated. If the why is not important enough then you won’t stick with it. There is no quick fix or magic pill for anything.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      Yes realizing there is no “quick fix” is an important realization to come to. Once you’ve accepted that, you more likely to do the work needed to get you there.

  2. Sabrina Quairoli says:

    It’s so important to have a plan before starting. I like to cut veggies a head of time for snacks. It helps me go for healthy snacks instead of the quick and easy.

  3. Tamuria says:

    I went on the diet roller coaster for years. Some worked, some didn’t but unless you follow it up with the lifestyle change you mention and healthy eating and exercise, all will fail. I totally agree the right mindset is vital and having a plan makes it so much easier.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      That roller coaster ride certainly isn’t any fun, is it? The key actually is to begin with lifestyle changes, not to follow up with them. Try to stop thinking in terms of going on a diet but rather learning how to eat for the health you wish to obtain.

  4. Kimberly says:

    You are so right! The mindset is everything, and knowing your strong “why” when you’re feeling weak is so important. Good reminder for just about anything you are doing!

  5. Joan Potter says:

    I think that Overeaters Anonymous and Weight Watchers are 2 of the programs out there with good results. The thread of continuity there is “group.” It’s just so hard to go it alone, and I see no reason that a coach couldn’t be part of a custom-made support group. Good for you for stepping up to the plate and taking on the task for people.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      I have to say I have had more than a few clients who used to do Overeaters Anonymous as well as Weight Watchers and not be able to keep the weight off. I think the issue may be lack of educating the client on why they are eating what they’re eating, as well as they still perceived it as a diet, not a lifestyle change. It’s really tricky, because most of permanent weight loss is mindset.

  6. Great tips Lisa and you are so spot on. See, I am a yoyo weight loss girl.. and well, while I DID change many of my poor eating habits.. some stick around, which is why I gain weight and need to lose it again. So, that’s the thing, if you keep NEEDING to lose weight, it is the behavior (mindset, like you mention) that really needs to be changed.. and it won’t need to be “again”. Well put!

  7. I was thin most of my life & then it crept up & I had no idea how to diet, so I did the yoyo thing. My mindset was I was still thin so if I dieted for a week & didn’t lose I got discouraged. I never adjusted my mindset. I never dug deep for my why. So I cleaned up my habits, eat fairly healthy, don’t lose weight but know I’m healthy. My biggest issue is moving my body & not getting discouraged.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      Are you trying not to be discouraged because you are not losing weight? It’s most likely because even though you are eating healthily, it’s not the right amount of calories or macronutrients for you. If you’d like some help with this, please feel free to reach out to me either via email: or phone 888-222-1273.

  8. Joyce Hansen says:

    The idea of not thinking of it as dieting but changing one’s lifestyle makes sense. Many times I grab things on the go just to satisfy hunger or thirst and there’s really not good for me. I’m slowly changing to plan ahead. Thanks for reframing it in a more positive mode.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      We all have to grab things on the go at one time or another so be sure that’s what you are planning for. Have fresh fruit available, serving size packets of nuts, maybe a protein drink or some shelled edamame. I gotta tell you, I never leave the house without taking along some food!

  9. Hi Lisa,
    Awesome post and share as I can totally relate about losing weight and wanting to keep it off 🙂 I really like your approach and being truthful about the fact that diets do not work, that it is a matter of lifestyle changes that will help you to lose weight. Mindset plays such an important part in losing weight and making sure it stays off.

    Thanks so much for sharing 🙂

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      Yes, it always begins with your mindset. If you’re starting from a place of fearing failure, you’re certainly not setting yourself up for success. Figure out what you can live with that is in alignment with your goals and you’re all set!

  10. Karen Grosz says:

    Mindset and why are critical to keeping off weight and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Not that they may not change, they will be starting off right is so important. Will be sharing on my Facebook page later this week.

  11. Oh yes. Mindset. For me, there’s also an element of financial investment. In other words, if I’m going to spend money on a weight-loss regiment, then I will by God follow it.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      That’s so true!! I find that holds true for just about any type of coaching. I have also in the past offered to help people for very little or even for free and it never seems to work out very well because they weren’t truly invested. Once the money beens spent, there’s definitely a mind-shift.

  12. I have never been on a diet to release weight (not that I don’t have excess pounds that have crept up over the last year). I never realized that the percentage of people who have was as high as you quoted, although I am aware that the weight loss industry is huge.

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      It is amazing just how many diets people have tried and failed… My goal is to get the message out to as many people as possible that it’s all about lifestyle & not diets!

  13. Lisa,
    You’re the bomb! Nobody wants to discuss the awful truth about how many people fail because of the programs they bought, not because they’re losers. Of course, losing the battle with weight on a program produces shame sometimes, which only increases the weight gain, which is yet another reason they should call you 😉 . Great article, Lisa!

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      Thank you Liz!! There is a lot of shame around failing multiple “diet” programs. It’s amazing when people make the mindset shift to lifestyle what happens!!!

  14. Lori English says:

    Hello Body Coach,
    A Nice article that is well written and if wanted to lose weight can see that you are a motivated person that would be great to have on my side. Great tips.

    Thank You,
    Lori English

  15. I’ve struggled with this for ages. Mindset is key. I find that my WHY is my health. But what I also find is that I am a lot more disciplined about the diet my cardiologist has me on when I don’t feel good. When my heart is acting up, I am militant about what goes in my mouth. But when I start to feel better, or if the doctor says I can start adding in a few new things, I ease back into some years old bad habits. The struggle is real!

    • bodysoulcoaches says:

      Yes the struggle is real! It sounds like what you need to work on are creating new habits and maybe even a new belief system. It may take some time to work through it, but it’s all very doable. If you like schedule a Get Fit Stay Fit Strategy Session with me. Go to my Schedule A Session page and choose “Get Fit Stay Fit” there’s no fee and no obligation.

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